Meet the Parents - June 6, 2012
So now we were exclusive. I’m not a jealous person, but to know that she only wanted to be with me made me one of the most blessed men on the planet. Around this time, my parents announced that they were coming for a visit. They don’t live but about 4 hours away but it is hard to match schedules and get to see them. I was nervous about whether I should even ask Heather if she wanted to meet them. But she asked me first if I was going to introduce her.
I love my parents, they are awesome and I couldn’t ask for better. But what if they didn’t like her? I know I did. (I knew I loved her too, but hadn’t told her that yet) Would she like them? But again, who wouldn’t like Heather? Everything turned out just as it should. Success! My life is blessed.
I love my parents, they are awesome and I couldn’t ask for better. But what if they didn’t like her? I know I did. (I knew I loved her too, but hadn’t told her that yet) Would she like them? But again, who wouldn’t like Heather? Everything turned out just as it should. Success! My life is blessed.
Talks of the Next 10,000 years
After another one of our late night dates, we were driving around just talking. Somehow I’m not sure of and I don’t remember who brought it up, we got on the subject of eternity. I believe I made a joke about how I could stand her for the first 10,000 years but I don’t know about after that. (she loves my jokes no matter how “cheesy” they are) The conversation kept spiraling down an ever increasing more serious talk of marriage. We both were unwilling to say the actual word out loud. The conversation ended before anyone had to say it. We couldn’t talk of marriage before we even knew if the other person even loved us. Our relationship has always been a little backwards when it comes to things like that.
An Unofficial Engagement - June 10, 2012
That same night as we stayed up late talking even more in her living room, the subject reemerged. This time I think I actually said the word and that must have been all she needed. If you know Heather, this next part
won’t surprise you. She came right out and said, “could you see yourself marrying me?” Holy crap! I knew she was capable of going there. We never have seemed to hold back on topics before. We are very open with almost everything. Probably more than we should be sometimes. But it still caught me like a sucker punch to the stomach.
I did reply with a probably nervous sounding “yes”. We kind of just sat there looking into each other’s eyes, not really saying anything. My mind was racing 1000miles a minute. It kept telling me, to just tell her how I felt about her. My heart sped up, I’m sure I was sweating. And I just said it. “I love you, Heather.”
Now I think that caught her off guard. She didn’t seem to hesitate, and she told me that she loved me too. Boom! Told you. I’m probably the luckiest man alive.
won’t surprise you. She came right out and said, “could you see yourself marrying me?” Holy crap! I knew she was capable of going there. We never have seemed to hold back on topics before. We are very open with almost everything. Probably more than we should be sometimes. But it still caught me like a sucker punch to the stomach.
I did reply with a probably nervous sounding “yes”. We kind of just sat there looking into each other’s eyes, not really saying anything. My mind was racing 1000miles a minute. It kept telling me, to just tell her how I felt about her. My heart sped up, I’m sure I was sweating. And I just said it. “I love you, Heather.”
Now I think that caught her off guard. She didn’t seem to hesitate, and she told me that she loved me too. Boom! Told you. I’m probably the luckiest man alive.
Asking the Family
I of course had to ask her mom’s blessing. How would she feel about me marrying her daughter? I felt like she liked me now. She seemed distant sometimes, but I assumed it was just her way of “staying out of our hair”.
I worked up the nerve to finally ask her for her blessing, and realized I had no need to worry. She thought I was great. (had her fooled, huh) Check one. Now to ask her oldest daughter.
Several weeks went by and the topic came up with her daughter. The response I got seemed almost rehearsed. As if Heather told her what to say ahead of time. When I asked her oldest daughter if it was okay if I married her mother, she said "You need to ask my mom." Hint, hint. Good one! Even a 4 year old knew I needed to hurry up.
I worked up the nerve to finally ask her for her blessing, and realized I had no need to worry. She thought I was great. (had her fooled, huh) Check one. Now to ask her oldest daughter.
Several weeks went by and the topic came up with her daughter. The response I got seemed almost rehearsed. As if Heather told her what to say ahead of time. When I asked her oldest daughter if it was okay if I married her mother, she said "You need to ask my mom." Hint, hint. Good one! Even a 4 year old knew I needed to hurry up.
Preparing for the Proposal
I already knew the answer. I already had the ring. Why did I feel so nervous? This was important. I thought, and thought, and thought of how to do it. I have spent hours writing down stuff to do and how to do it. Paper after paper trashed and started over in a futile attempt to figure out the right thing to do.
Heather said something that made me feel more at ease. She said that as long as it was thoughtful, it would be fine.
Heather said something that made me feel more at ease. She said that as long as it was thoughtful, it would be fine.
The One for Me
After that, it has been a wonderful experience of planning a wedding, buying her the perfect ring, sending her to Utah to get a dress. And I still hadn't even proposed officially. Our relationship is backwards at times.
But I haven't been so sure of anything else in my entire life. She is the one for me. She is the one that my whole life has been preparing me for. I love her so much. She is smart, funny, sassy, loving, and the most beautiful woman in the world. I survived 25 years without her and I don't think I can survive another week without her.
Some things just fall into place. To be in the right area, at the right time, in the right ward, at this stage of our lives. My Heavenly Father loves me more than I deserve. To send me such a wonderful person such as Heather.
I can see me spending the next 10,000 years with her and loving every second.
But I haven't been so sure of anything else in my entire life. She is the one for me. She is the one that my whole life has been preparing me for. I love her so much. She is smart, funny, sassy, loving, and the most beautiful woman in the world. I survived 25 years without her and I don't think I can survive another week without her.
Some things just fall into place. To be in the right area, at the right time, in the right ward, at this stage of our lives. My Heavenly Father loves me more than I deserve. To send me such a wonderful person such as Heather.
I can see me spending the next 10,000 years with her and loving every second.
Its Official! - July 10, 2012
I have official asked her for her hand in marriage! Of course she said yes. (how could she not when she saw that huge rock!) I must be the happiest guy on the planet. She is the most important thing in my life.
If you're curious, here's how I proposed: I first got her to come to my TaeKwonDo studio (where we had our first real date) and practice two-stepping together (because the last time we had gone dancing we had the most fun). We danced and danced. I'm sure she could tell I was extra nervous. After what seemed like forever as I was working up the courage to ask her, I made the decision to just go for it. I sat her down on the futon and kneeled in front of her. Couldn't tell you what I said cause I was so nervous. I pulled out the ring (upside down) and proposed. She said YES! Nervousness gone. Pure happiness was the only feeling left.
Since then its been a constant flow of everything that it takes to get ready for a wedding. Alot of work and planning. (mostly by Heather and her mom) But I do get to go on cake testings.
If you're curious, here's how I proposed: I first got her to come to my TaeKwonDo studio (where we had our first real date) and practice two-stepping together (because the last time we had gone dancing we had the most fun). We danced and danced. I'm sure she could tell I was extra nervous. After what seemed like forever as I was working up the courage to ask her, I made the decision to just go for it. I sat her down on the futon and kneeled in front of her. Couldn't tell you what I said cause I was so nervous. I pulled out the ring (upside down) and proposed. She said YES! Nervousness gone. Pure happiness was the only feeling left.
Since then its been a constant flow of everything that it takes to get ready for a wedding. Alot of work and planning. (mostly by Heather and her mom) But I do get to go on cake testings.
The Future...
I don't know all of what the future will hold for us. I love her more than anything else on this planet and that will never change. I love you Heather and will do my very best everyday to make you happy, take care of you and the girls, and make sure that you know how much you mean to me. I look forward to spending the next 10,000 years with you. (after that, we'll have to see...I think the first 10,000 years will be the hardest though)